Overcoming the Need for Perfection

How often are you paralyzed by perfection, when the desire to do something perfect keeps you from ever doing it at all? Do you have a book to write? A picture to paint? How about a new career move or great invention on the back burner? For most of us there are at least a few things in our lives that we never take action on. Here are just a few of the excuses we use to justify our position – These may sound familiar to you.
Excuse 1 – I’m waiting for just the right moment.
Excuse 2 – I don’t know enough about it yet to move forward.
Excuse 3 – I can’t think of the right way to say it.
Excuse 4 – It won’t be right anyway so why bother doing it.
How many of these have you used before? Got any other favorites? Even though these excuses sound different, essentially they all boil down to the same symptom, a need for perfection.
So what is the perfection you seek anyway? Is it fair to say that rather than seeking perfection, you’re really just creating an elaborate and seemingly unsurpassable excuse to keep you from moving ahead? We have heard it said countless times that perfection doesn’t exist, yet we still strive for this quality in much of what we do. Are we setting ourselves up on purpose?
If we truly believe that perfection doesn’t exist, yet we use it as a tool in which to measure things by, then we’ll never add up and won’t meet our own expectations. Essentially we set ourselves up for failure before we even begin. This condition is then recognized by our egos, and our internal protector then steps in to keep us from making progress towards whatever it may be, even if it’s a life long dream or passion.
So how can we overcome this obstacle? Let’s try looking at it from another perspective. Consider that everything you do is in fact perfect. No matter which direction you go, whether you win, lose, succeed, or fail, it’s all perfect. How would this mindset effect the actions you take? Would it no longer matter whether it was the ideal situation? Would being ‘right’ no longer hold you hostage? Chances are you just might take on some new challenges and obstacles that could open up a whole new world of possibility for you. It may even remove the self-imposed limits that currently define your beliefs.
What happens if you take action and discover you’re not really where you wanted to be or envisioned being? Simply re-direct yourself and keep moving. It’s that simple, you’re never stuck, you’re only temporarily in that spot, move onwards and upwards. Don’t spend time there beating yourself up about it, accept it as perfect based upon what you knew when you made the decision, and then make another decision based upon your new level of knowledge. Who knows, you might just learn something in the process.
Now, the next time you’re faced with a situation where perfection becomes your threshold for action, remember to take action anyway, and know that no matter which direction you go, it’s all perfect.

How often are you paralyzed by perfection, when the desire to do something perfect keeps you from ever doing it at all? Do you have a book to write? A picture to paint? How about a new career move or great invention on the back burner? For most of us there are at least a few things in our lives that we never take action on. Here are just a few of the excuses we use to justify our position – These may sound familiar to you.

Excuse 1 – I’m waiting for just the right moment.

Excuse 2 – I don’t know enough about it yet to move forward.

Excuse 3 – I can’t think of the right way to say it.

Excuse 4 – It won’t be right anyway so why bother doing it.

How many of these have you used before? Got any other favorites? Even though these excuses sound different, essentially they all boil down to the same symptom, a need for perfection.

So what is the perfection you seek anyway? Is it fair to say that rather than seeking perfection, you’re really just creating an elaborate and seemingly unsurpassable excuse to keep you from moving ahead? We have heard it said countless times that perfection doesn’t exist, yet we still strive for this quality in much of what we do. Are we setting ourselves up on purpose?

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Something to Consider – Great Story!

I had this story forwarded to me and it related to something I wrote in my newsletter this month so I also wanted to share it here as what it has behind it carries a lot of relevance to life today.

Enjoy!   – Joshua

Washington DC Metro Station on a cold January morning  in 2007. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx 2 thousand people went through the  station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a  middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He  slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried  to meet his schedule.

4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw  the money in the till and, without stopping, continued to  walk.

6 minutes:
A young man leaned  against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch  and started to walk again.

10 minutes:
A 3 year old boy  stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly, as the kid  stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed  hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the  time. This action was repeated by several other children.  Every parent, without exception, forced them to move  on.

45 minutes:
The musician played.  Only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave  him money but continued to walk their normal pace.

He  collected $32.

1 hour:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one  noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any  recognition.

No one knew this but  the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in  the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever  written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days  before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the  seats averaged $100.

This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing  incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington  Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste  and people’s priorities. The questions raised: in a common  place environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive  beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in  an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached  from this experiment could be:

If we do not have a  moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the  world playing some of the finest music ever written, with one  of the most beautiful instruments …..

How many other things are we missing?

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Path to the LIGHT is thru the DARK SIDE – new film by Debbie Ford

Shadow Effect DVDAcclaimed spiritual teacher Debbie Ford and some of today’s foremost thinkers take viewers on an emotionally-gripping, visually-compelling journey into the human psyche’s mysterious shadow self –the hiding place for our most disliked thoughts, emotions, and impulses– and reveal how people have embraced their worst fears to become their best selves.

Prepare yourself for a chilling inquiry into the conflicting forces of darkness and light that compete for attention within every human being. Debbie Ford, #1 New York Times bestselling author and internationally acclaimed expert on the Shadow, presents a visually stunning and cutting-edge documentary that will inspire you to uncover the wisdom in your wounds, the blessings in your misfortunes, and the gifts that are waiting to be claimed where you may least expect them…in the dark. Ford reveals the method, secrets, and meaning of your shadow, the parts of yourself that you dislike and disown, the past that you regret and repress and the pain that you attempt to bury, and shows how it persistently rises from its grave only to thwart your happiness and oppose your greatest potential as a human being.

With appearances from some of the most brilliant and evolutionary thinkers of the 21st century, including Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Mark Victor Hansen, James Van Praagh, and others, this world-class cinematic experience pulls no punches as it traces the stories of individuals who have met with some of life’s harshest experiences – war, child abuse, racism, a German concentration camp – but learned how to face their terror, heal their wounds and meet their higher, heroic selves in the process. Visually beautiful and highly stylized, with vignettes and special effects that dramatize the concepts and the real life stories, this film unveils the fascinating story of why we do what we do, fear what we fear, and why good people do bad things. “The Shadow” will leave you breathing a little deeper and feeling more compassion and kindness for your own dark, conflicted, or repressed urges. It may even inspire you to make the most life-altering step of all – to embrace your entire self.

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